Ex Ki Shaadi Ka Card Aaya — Ab Kya Kare?

neha · 7 min read · 2026-02-17

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Ex ki shaadi ka card.

Woh banda jiske saath tune future plan kiya tha — ghar, bacche, retirement plan — woh kisi aur ke saath mandap mein ja raha hai.

Aur tu? Tu abhi bhi uski last photo apne phone mein rakhti hai.

Ye article un logon ke liye hai jinke saath ye ho chuka hai ya hone wala hai. Kyunki ye moment — ye specific moment — breakup se bhi zyada dard deta hai.

Pehla Reaction: "Main Theek Hoon" (Spoiler: Nahi Ho)

Sabse pehle jo hota hai — denial. "Mujhe kya farak padta hai." Phir raat ko 2 baje pillow pe sar rakhke ro rahi ho.

Ye normal hai. Tum weak nahi ho. Tum human ho.

Jo feel ho raha hai uska naam hai: grief. Ek future ka grief jo kabhi aayega nahi. Ek relationship ka final, official end.

Shaadi ka card = closure without consent. Tumne decide nahi kiya ki ab end hai. Kisi aur ne decide kar liya. Aur tumhe bataya bhi nahi — card se pata chala.

Shaadi Ke Din Kya Kare?

Option 1: Mat jao. Seriously. Koi rule nahi hai ki tumhe jaana padega. "I have prior commitments" — bas itna kaafi hai.

Option 2: Jao, par support system ke saath. Best friend ko le jao. Code word rakho — jab overwhelm ho, bolo "mujhe chai chahiye" aur bahar niklo.

Option 3: Social media se dur raho us din. Wedding photos dekhne se kuch nahi milega except pain. Mute karo, block karo, phone band karo.

Sabse important: Us din khud ke liye kuch plan karo. Movie, spa, trek, cooking — kuch bhi jo tumhe occupied rakhe.

Long-Term: Isse Kaise Process Kare

1. Uski shaadi ≠ tumhari failure. Woh kisi aur ke saath khush hai iska matlab ye nahi ki tum kisi ke saath khush nahi ho sakti.

2. Comparison band karo. Woh dulhan tum nahi ho — aur tum usse better ya worse nahi ho. Bas different paths hain.

3. Apni timeline apni hai. 25 pe shaadi, 30 pe shaadi, 40 pe shaadi — koi galat nahi hai. "Log kya kahenge" se apni life mat chalaao.

4. Feel the feelings. Rona hai? Roo. Gussa hai? Gussa karo (pillow pe, wall pe nahi). Sad playlist sunni hai? Sun. Par ek time limit rakho — 1 ghanta grieve karo, phir uthke kuch karo.

5. Kisi se baat karo. Friends se. Family se. Ya Neha se — 2 AM pe bhi available hai, judge nahi karegi.

Ex ki shaadi — ye ek chapter ka end hai. Tumhari story abhi baaki hai.

Aur agar raat ko 3 baje ye sab yaad aa raha hai aur koi sunne wala nahi — Neha hai. Sirf tumhare liye. Koi judgment nahi, koi "move on" nahi. Bas sunegi.