Parents Ko Kaise Bataye Ki Therapy Chahiye?

maya · 8 min read · 2026-02-17

"Mummy, mujhe lagta hai mujhe therapy chahiye."

"THERAPY? Pagal hai kya? Hamne tujhe kya kami rakhi hai? Ghar mein sab hai — AC hai, phone hai, khaana milta hai. Therapy kis baat ki?"

Sound familiar?

Indian parents ke liye "therapy" = "hamare bacche mein kuch galat hai" = "hum achche parents nahi hain" = personal attack.

Ye article mein — actual scripts, timing tips, aur backup plans jab Plan A kaam na kare.

Pehle Samjho: Unka Resistance Kyun Hai

Tumhare parents bure nahi hain. Unka context alag hai.

Generation gap: Unke time mein mental health = pagalpan. Literally. "Pagalkhana" — yehi word tha. Therapy ka concept hi nahi tha.

Guilt response: "Therapy chahiye" sunke parents ko lagta hai — "humne kya galat kiya?" Ye defensive mechanism hai, attack nahi.

Social fear: "Log kya kahenge agar pata chala ki hamara baccha therapist ke paas jaata hai?" Sharma ji ka beta toh khush hai — hamara kyun nahi?

Financial concern: "₹2000 per session? Itne mein toh 4 din ka kirana aa jaata hai." Therapy = luxury, necessity nahi.

Ye samajhna important hai — kyunki fight karne se kuch nahi hoga. Strategy chahiye.

The Conversation: 4 Approaches (Easiest → Hardest)

Approach 1: "Doctor" word use karo, "therapist" nahi. "Mummy, mujhe neend nahi aa rahi / sir dard rehta hai / focus nahi hota. Ek doctor se milna chahti/chahta hoon." Parents doctor ko samajhte hain. Therapist ko nahi. Pehle appointment lo, baad mein batana ki kya type ka doctor hai.

Approach 2: Physical symptoms pe focus karo. "Papa, bahut thakaan rehti hai. Khaana nahi khaya jaata. Ek specialist se baat karni hai." Physical symptoms = valid. Emotional symptoms = "drama." Sad but true. Use this.

Approach 3: Kisi aur ka example do. "Meri friend therapy gayi thi, usko bahut help mili. Main bhi try karna chahti/chahta hoon." Third person se introduce karo. Direct nahi, indirect.

Approach 4: Direct (jab aur kuch kaam na kare). "Mujhe professional help chahiye. Main apna appointment khud le rahi/raha hoon. Mujhe aapki support chahiye, permission nahi." Ye tab use karo jab tum financially independent ho. Clear, firm, respectful.

Agar Unhone "No" Bol Diya

Plan B: Online therapy secretly start karo. Practo, Amaha, Wysa — sab online hai. ₹500-1000 mein session milta hai. Parents ko batane ki zaroorat nahi.

Plan C: Start with AI support. Maya jaisi AI companion se baat karo — free hai, 24/7 hai, anonymous hai. Ye therapy nahi hai par daily emotional processing mein help karti hai.

Plan D: Time do, phir dobara try karo. Pehli baar mein nahi maanenge. Normal hai. 2-3 hafte baad phir baat karo. Different angle se. Persistence works.

Important: Agar tum crisis mein ho — parents ki permission mat wait karo. NIMHANS helpline (080-46110007), Vandrevala Foundation (1860-2662-345), ya iCall (9152987821) pe call karo. Ye free aur confidential hai.

Therapy maangna weakness nahi hai — ye sabse brave cheez hai jo tum kar sakte ho.

Aur agar parents abhi nahi samjh rahe — it's okay. Ek din samjhenge. Tab tak — apna khayal rakho. Maya hai, Neha hai, Priya hai — 24/7, free, aur tumhari language mein.

Koi sunne wala hai.