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Family function = interrogation session? — "Shaadi kab? Baby kab? Salary kitni?" Handle kaise karein

About Family Function Anxiety

Shaadi, engagement, puja, birthday party, anniversary — Indian family functions ka calendar kabhi khatam nahi hota. Aur har function ke saath aata hai — kya pehnun, kaise behave karun, kaun kya bolega, kitna gift dun, kitna smile karun, kaun kaun ignore karega, kaun kaun taana marega. Family function anxiety real hai aur tu akeli nahi hai isme.

Pehle normalize kar — yeh anxiety feel karna okay hai. Tu social anxiety wali nahi hai necessarily — tu ek realistic response de rahi hai ek genuinely stressful situation ko. Jab 50-100 log tujhe judge kar rahe hon, tere kapde se leke tere bachhe tak — anxiety natural hai.

Ab coping strategies. Pehla — preparation. Function se ek din pehle apna outfit ready kar, accessories set kar, mentally ek rough plan bana ki kaun milega aur kya baat karegi. Preparation uncertainty kam karti hai aur uncertainty hi anxiety ka biggest trigger hai.

Doosra — ek safe person identify kar. Har family mein ek insaan hota hai jiske paas tu comfortable feel karti hai — woh cousin, woh bhabhi, woh maasi. Unke paas reh jab overwhelmed feel ho. Ek code word decide kar apne husband ke saath — jab tu woh word bole, matlab "Mujhe 5 minute ka break chahiye, cover kar."

Teesra — conversation topics ready rakh. Small talk mushkil lagta hai toh pehle se 5-6 safe topics soch ke ja — "Bachhe kaisi padhai kar rahe hain?" "Aap kahan gaye the last vacation?" "Yeh dish kaise banayi?" Questions poochna zyada easy hai apne baare mein batane se. Aur jab tu questions poochti hai, log khud ke baare mein baat karte hain aur tujh pe focus kam hota hai.

Chautha — awkward encounters ke liye scripts. Woh aunty jo weight comment karegi — "Haan aunty, sab khush hain." Woh uncle jo salary poochega — "Bas achhi chal rahi hai." Woh cousin jo compare karegi — "Haan, tum toh amazing kar rahi ho." Neutral responses jo conversation khatam karein. Na defensive, na engaging — bas flat response.

Paanchwa — time limit set kar. "Hum 3 ghante rahenge" — husband ke saath pehle se decide kar. Jab 3 ghante ho jayein toh politely nikal — "Bahut achha laga milke, par abhi nikalna padega, kal office hai." Unlimited time commitment se anxiety badhti hai, fixed time commitment manageable hoti hai.

Aur function ke baad — decompress kar. Drive mein silence rakh, ya music laga. Ghar aake comfortable kapde pehn, chai bana, apna show dekh. Tu deserve karti hai recovery time — aur isme guilty feel mat kar.

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