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Rishtedaar apni life mein ghuste hain? — "Unke yahan toh aisa hota hai" sunke thak gayi?

About Relatives Interference

Indian families mein relatives ka interference ek permanent feature hai — jaise ghar mein furniture. Koi aunty teri shaadi fix karana chahti hai, koi uncle tere career pe opinion de raha hai, koi chachi tere bachhe ki parenting pe comment kar rahi hai, aur koi door ka rishtedar jo saal mein ek baar milta hai woh bhi "advice" de raha hai. Uninvited, unwanted, unending.

Samajh le ki yeh interference pyaar se aata hai — partially. Indian culture mein family ki definition extended hai aur sab ko lagta hai unka haq hai baat karna. Par pyaar ka matlab yeh nahi ki har cheez mein dakhal dena okay hai. Pyaar respect ke saath aata hai, aur respect boundaries ke saath.

Ab kaise handle karein. Sabse pehle — triage kar. Sab relatives equal nahi hain. Kuch genuinely care karte hain aur unki advice sometimes valuable hoti hai. Kuch sirf gossip chahte hain. Kuch apni insecurities project kar rahe hain. Pehchaan ki kaun actually care karta hai aur kaun sirf interfere.

Jo genuinely care karte hain — unhe respectfully bol "Aunty, aapki baat samjhi. Main zaroor sochungi." Acknowledge kar, par follow karna compulsory nahi. Tu adult hai, decision tera hai.

Jo gossip wale hain — unhe minimum information de. "Sab achha hai" — bas itna kaafi hai. Details mat de. Jo detail tu degi, woh 10 logon ko pahunchegi modified version mein. Information diet pe rakh inhe.

Jo manipulative hain — unse distance rakh. "Sorry aunty, abhi busy hoon" — calls short rakh, visits kam kar. Tu obligated nahi hai har rishtedar ko apna time dene ke liye sirf isliye ki woh "family" hain.

Parents ke through channeling kaam karti hai. Agar koi relative parents ko complain kare — "Aapki beti yeh kar rahi hai" — toh parents ko pehle se prepared rakh. "Mummy, agar koi kuch bole toh bol dena ki humne decide kiya hai aur hum khush hain." Jab parents strong front dikhate hain, relatives back off karte hain.

Aur sabse zaroori — apne husband ko inform rakh. Agar uski side ke relatives interfere kar rahe hain toh usse bol — "Tere chacha ne mujhe yeh bola. Main chahti hoon tu unse baat kare." Husband ko apni family handle karni chahiye, jaise tu apni handle kar rahi hai.

Ek golden rule yaad rakh — "Not my circus, not my monkeys." Relatives ka drama tera problem nahi hai. Unhe drama karne de. Tu apni life apne terms pe jee. Jo sach mein matter karte hain — immediate family — unke saath invest kar. Baaki sab seasonal characters hain teri life ke show mein.

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