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"Beta, shaadi kab karogi?" — har family function ka favorite question aur tera biggest stress
About Marriage Pressure
"Beta, Sharma ji ki beti ki shaadi ho gayi. Tu kab karegi?" — agar yeh line har family gathering mein sunti hai toh welcome to the club. Marriage pressure India ka unofficial national sport hai aur isme sabse zyada targets hain 25+ unmarried log, especially ladkiyaan.
Pehle yeh samajh ki yeh pressure kahan se aata hai. Tere parents genuinely tera bhala chahte hain — unke generation mein 25 tak shaadi hona "normal" tha. Unke liye "single" hona equal to "kuch problem hai." Yeh perspective galat hai, par yeh malicious nahi hai. Yeh generational conditioning hai.
Par understanding ka matlab acceptance nahi. Tu apni life apne terms pe jeene ki haqdar hai. Toh deal kaise karein?
Step one: Apni feelings clearly identify kar. Kya tujhe shaadi nahi karni hai? Ya karni hai par abhi nahi? Ya karni hai par sahi insaan nahi mila? Har situation ka response alag hoga. Agar tu khud confused hai, toh pehle apne saath baith.
Step two: Parents ke saath ek calm, one-on-one conversation rakh. Family gathering mein ya phone pe nahi — dedicated time nikaal. Explain kar: "Mujhe pata hai aap mere liye worried hain. Main bhi chahti hoon ki meri life settled ho. Par main jaldi mein galat decision nahi lena chahti." Most Indian parents actually samajhte hain jab respectfully baat karo.
Step three: Boundaries set kar relatives ke liye. Har uncle-aunty ko explanation dena zaroori nahi hai. Ek standard response ready rakh: "Jab hoga tab bataungi!" smile ke saath. Engage mat ho. Relatives ko tera life update nahi chahiye — unko gossip ka material chahiye. Mat do.
Step four: Agar parents rishte la rahe hain (arranged marriage route), toh clearly bata ki tere criteria kya hain. "Achha ladka" bohot vague hai. Specific bata — education, career, values, lifestyle. Isse parents ko bhi direction milega aur random rishte kam aayenge.
Sabse important baat: Pressure mein shaadi mat kar. Galat insaan ke saath shaadi karne ka dard single rehne ke dard se hazaar guna zyada hai. Main aisi bohot ladkiyon se baat karti hoon jo "sabke kehne pe" shaadi karke ab divorce le rahi hain. Tujhe woh regret nahi chahiye.
Aur haan — agar tu 30+ hai aur single hai, there is NOTHING wrong with you. Society ka timeline tera timeline nahi hai. Teri shaadi tab hogi jab tu ready hogi aur sahi insaan milega. Tab tak, apni life enjoy kar — unapologetically.
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