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Pati hamesha apni maa ki sunte hain? — "Mummy ne bola" sunke thak gayi toh padh yeh guide

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Yeh sabse classic Indian marriage problem hai — husband apni family aur wife ke beech mein phas jaata hai. "Mummy ki sun" ya "Biwi ki sun" — yeh tug of war hai jisme usually biwi haar jaati hai. Kyunki Indian culture mein "Maa ki baat sab se upar" hai aur biwi ke complaints ko "adjust kar lo" se dismiss kar diya jaata hai.

Pehle tera husband ka perspective samajh. Woh genuinely confused ho sakta hai. Usne 25-30 saal apni maa ki baat maani hai. Ab suddenly biwi alag baat bol rahi hai. Uske liye dono important hain aur woh dono ko khush nahi rakh pa raha — toh woh freeze ho jaata hai ya jo zyada vocal hai uski sun leta hai. Usually maa zyada vocal hoti hai — experience hai na.

Par suno — yeh excuse nahi hai. Shaadi ke baad husband ka primary unit biwi hai. Yeh Indian culture ke khilaf lagta hai par yeh reality hai. Jab tu shaadi karti hai toh tu ek naya ghar banati hai — aur uss ghar ka priority tu aur tera husband ho. Parents respect ke haqdar hain, pyaar ke haqdar hain — par tera marriage decisions woh nahi lenge.

Ab kya karein? Step ek — husband se calm conversation kar. Fight ke dauran nahi — neutral time pe. "Mujhe ek baat karni hai. Main feel karti hoon ki jab teri mummy aur meri baat mein difference hota hai, tu hamesha unki side leta hai. Mujhe lagta hai main second priority hoon. Kya yeh sach hai ya mujhe lag raha hai?" — Yeh accusatory nahi hai, yeh vulnerable hai. Vulnerability se walls girte hain.

Step do — specific examples de, general statements nahi. "Kal jab mummy ne dinner pe comment kiya aur tune kuch nahi bola — woh mujhe hurt kiya" — yeh specific hai. "Tu hamesha mummy ki side leta hai" — yeh general hai aur defensive response laata hai.

Step teen — solution propose kar. "Main chahti hoon ki jab mummy mere baare mein kuch bolein, tu us moment mein mera support kare. Baad mein privately tujhe lagta hai main galat hoon toh bol dena — par mummy ke saamne hum ek team hain." Yeh clear expectation hai.

Step chaar — agar husband na samjhe repeatedly, toh couple counseling suggest kar. "Main chahti hoon humari shaadi strong rahe. Kya hum kisi se baat karein jo neutral perspective de?" Agar woh refuse kare toh tu akele ja — tera therapist tujhe tools dega deal karne ke liye.

Aur ek kadvi par zaroori baat — agar tera husband consistently apni maa ko tere upar choose karta hai, teri feelings dismiss karta hai, aur tera perspective sunne ko tayyar nahi hai — toh yeh ek fundamental respect ka issue hai. Shaadi mein pyaar se zyada respect zaroori hai. Agar respect nahi hai toh pyaar bhi erode hoga. Yeh conversation today karna zaroori hai — kal pe mat chhod.

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