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Raat ko neend nahi aati aur dil sirf unhi ko yaad karta hai — tu akela nahi hai isme

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Din bhar tu manage karti hai. Kaam pe busy rehti hai, friends se milti hai, gym jaati hai. Par raat ko jab lights off hoti hain aur silence aata hai — uski yaad tsunami ki tarah aati hai. Uski baatein, uska smell, uske saath soye hue woh raat, woh goodnight messages. Raat ko missing ek different beast hai, aur main samjhti hoon ki yeh kitna isolating feel hota hai.

Science behind this — raat ko tere brain ke distractions khatam ho jaate hain. Din bhar tere prefrontal cortex (logical brain) ne control rakha, par raat ko jab tu tired hoti hai, toh emotional brain — amygdala — takeover kar leta hai. Isliye raat ko emotions zyada intense feel hote hain. Yeh tera weakness nahi hai, yeh biology hai.

Ab kya kare? Pehla — apni bedtime routine change kar. Agar pehle so jaane se pehle usse call karti thi ya text karti thi, toh ab woh slot fill kar. Podcast sun — comedy wala, informative wala, kuch bhi jo tere brain ko engage kare. Audiobook chal de — koi interesting story jo tujhe doosri duniya mein le jaaye. ASMR try kar agar tujhe sone mein help chahiye.

Dusra — journaling try kar before bed. Din bhar jo feel kiya, usse likh. Apne ex ke baare mein bhi likh sakti hai. Par journaling ka end hamesha ek positive note pe kar — "Aaj mushkil tha par maine ek din aur survive kiya." Yeh tera brain ko ek closure deta hai raat ko.

Teesra — physical comfort create kar. Ek extra pillow le, cozy blanket use kar, room mein lavender spray kar. Sounds silly par physical comfort emotional comfort se connected hai. Jab tera body safe feel karega, tera mind bhi thoda calm hoga.

Chautha — 3 AM ka rule bana. Agar raat ko 3 baje uthke uski yaad aaye aur phone uthana ho — RAKH. Jo bhi tu 3 AM pe feel kar rahi hai, woh amplified hai. Jo message bhejne ka mann hai, woh subah 10 baje decide kar. Jo decision lena hai, woh daylight mein le. Raat ke decisions mostly regret laate hain.

Aur last — yeh phase temporary hai. Main jaanti hoon abhi lagta hai ki yeh forever chalega, par nahi chalega. Ek time aayega jab tu raat ko soundly soyegi bina uske khayal ke. Tab tak, raat ko uski jagah apne aap ke saath reh. Tu apni sabse achhi companion hai — bas tune abhi tak realize nahi kiya.

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