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Tujhe pata hai ki uska Instagram check karna toxic hai. Tujhe pata hai ki uski stories dekhne se tujhe acha nahi lagta. Phir bhi haath apne aap phone pe jaata hai, app khulta hai, aur tu scroll karti hai uska profile — kya post kiya, kiske saath hai, woh happy dikh raha hai ya nahi. Aur har baar dekhne ke baad tu aur bura feel karti hai. Yeh cycle tujhe pehchaanna padega.

Stalking — online ya offline — ek coping mechanism hai. Tera brain uncertainty handle nahi kar paata. Breakup ke baad sabse bada question yeh hota hai — "kya woh bhi miss kar raha hai mujhe?" Aur social media pe jaake tu us question ka answer dhundhti hai. Par sach yeh hai — tujhe woh answer kabhi nahi milega online. Uski happy photos real nahi hain, uska vibe check tujhe kuch nahi batayega. Tu bas apne assumptions project karti hai.

Practical steps le. Pehla — screen time limit lagaa us app pe. iPhone mein jaake Settings > Screen Time > App Limits. Instagram pe 15 minute ka limit daal. Jab limit hit hogi, tera brain ek pause lega aur tu conscious decision le paayegi — continue karna hai ya nahi.

Dusra — unfollow ya mute kar. Main jaanti hoon yeh scary lagta hai kyunki tujhe lagta hai ki woh notice karega aur sochega ki tujhe farak padta hai. Guess what — tujhe farak PADTA hai, aur that is okay. Apni healing uske perception se zyada important hai.

Teesra — jab bhi stalking ka urge aaye, ek replacement behavior choose kar. Phone utha aur uski jagah kisi friend ko message kar. Ya ek game khel. Ya uth ke kitchen mein jaa aur chai bana. Yeh choti cheezein hain par yeh teri neural pathways ko rewire karti hain.

Chautha — apne triggers identify kar. Kya raat ko akele hone pe zyada stalk karti hai? Kya bore hone pe? Kya kisi se uska naam sunne ke baad? Triggers jaanne se tu prepared reh sakti hai.

Aur sabse important — apne aap ko shame mat kar. "Main itni weak hoon ki ab bhi stalk karti hoon" — yeh sochna band kar. Yeh human nature hai. Par tujhe consciously decide karna hai ki tu is habit ko control karegi. Har din ek naya din hai. Agar aaj stalk kar liya, kal try kar mat karna. Progress perfection se zyada matters hai.

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