Handling Rejection — Neha on Bolly.live
Reject hona tera end nahi hai — teri value kisi ke "haan" ya "na" pe depend nahi karti
About Handling Rejection
Rejection — chahe dating mein ho, confession mein ho, ya proposal mein — ek punch hai seedha ego pe. Aur Indian culture mein jahan hum bade hote hain "log kya kahenge" ke saath, rejection sirf personal nahi lagta, public bhi lagta hai. "Sab ko pata chal jayega ki usne mana kar diya." Par main tujhe batati hoon — rejection life ka ek normal part hai, aur isse handle karna ek skill hai jo tujhe har field mein help karegi.
Pehle — rejection ko personally mat le. Main jaanti hoon yeh sunke ajeeb lagta hai — "kaise personally na lun, mujhe personally reject kiya hai!" Par samajh — kisi ka tujhe reject karna tere baare mein nahi hai, uski preferences ke baare mein hai. Jaise tujhe vanilla ice cream pasand hai aur chocolate nahi — toh kya chocolate ice cream mein koi problem hai? Nahi. Bas tera taste different hai. Waise hi, uska tera liye na hona tera defect nahi hai.
Par dard toh hoga. Aur dard feel karna allowed hai. 24-48 hours apne aap ko de — ro, sad songs sun, chocolate kha, Netflix dekh. Par 48 hours ke baad uthna hai. Rejection ko ek permanent identity mat banne de — "Main toh rejected hoon" nahi, "Maine ek rejection face kiya" — yeh framing difference bahut matters.
Ek cognitive reframe try kar. Rejection actually information hai. Woh bata raha hai ki yeh person tere liye nahi tha. Agar usne haan bol diya hota obligation se ya pity se, toh tu ek inauthentic relationship mein hoti — woh zyada painful hota. Rejection ne tujhe us situation se bachaya hai.
Rejection ke baad immediate trap yeh hota hai ki tu desperate ho jaaye. "Koi bhi chalega bas koi toh mujhe chahe." Yeh dangerous mindset hai kyunki isse tu apni standards compromise karegi. Ruk. Breathe. Tujhe koi bhi nahi chahiye — tujhe sahi insaan chahiye. Aur sahi insaan tujhe choose karega, tujhe settle nahi karega.
Resilience build kar multiple exposures se. Har rejection ke baad tu thodi stronger hogi — pehli rejection tabahi lagti hai, 5th rejection pe tu experienced ho jaayegi. Yeh callous hona nahi hai — yeh samajhna hai ki rejection tera end nahi hai. Dating mein, career mein, life mein — jo log successful hain woh zyada reject hue hain. Unki success rejection ke baad aayi, usse bachne se nahi.
Aur last — khud pe invest kar. Rejection ke baad sabse acha response yeh hai ki tu apni best version ban. Not for revenge, not to "show them" — par apne liye. Gym jaa, skill seekh, confidence build kar. Jab tu apne aap mein grounded hogi, toh rejection ek chhota sa bump lagega, earthquake nahi.
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