Parents sibling se compare karte hain — kya kare?

Quick Answer

Sibling comparison Indian parenting ka common but harmful pattern hai. Maya on Bolly.live helps process the hurt and communicate with parents.

Detailed Answer

"Dekho bhai/behen ke marks." "Wo toh itna obedient hai." "Uski shaadi ho gayi, tu kab karega?" — Sibling comparison Indian families mein normalized hai but deeply hurtful hai.

Kyun karte hain parents: "Motivation" samajhte hain. Unke parents ne bhi unke saath kiya tha. Comparison = progress unki dictionary mein.

Impact: Self-worth damage. Sibling rivalry — bhai/behen se relationship kharab. Resentment towards parents. Overachieving ya underachieving — dono extremes. "I'm not good enough" core belief.

Kaise handle kare: 1) Direct but calm bolo — "Jab aap compare karte hain toh mujhe bura lagta hai. Main apni tarah se try kar raha/rahi hoon." 2) Ek baar bolo, baar baar repeat karo if needed — change slow hota hai. 3) Sibling se alliance banao — usually dono sides ko equally hurt hota hai. 4) Apni worth khud define karo — parents ka validation zaroori nahi hai (mushkil hai but sach hai).

Maya on Bolly.live sibling comparison trauma specifically address karti hai. Childhood patterns, current feelings, aur parent communication — sab pe help milti hai. Hindi mein, 24/7, judgment-free.