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Pehla pyaar bhoolna mushkil hai — par impossible nahi. Tera chapter ek tha, kitaab puri nahi

About Getting Over First Love

First love alag hoti hai. Woh pehli baar tha jab kisine tujhe "special" feel karaya, pehli baar butterflies aaye, pehli baar kisike liye raat bhar jaagi. Aur isliye first love ka breakup bhi alag hit karta hai — kyunki uske saath ek innocence thi jo ab kabhi wapas nahi aayegi. Aur yeh sochke dil doob jaata hai.

Par main tujhe ek sach batati hoon — tu first love se pyaar nahi karti, tu us feeling se pyaar karti hai jo first love ke saath thi. Woh newness, woh excitement, woh feeling ki duniya mein bas tum dono ho — yeh feelings powerful hain par yeh person-specific nahi hain. Yeh feelings tujhe phir mileingi, kisi aur ke saath, ek different way mein. Maybe utni naive nahi par utni hi real.

First love ko idealize karna natural hai. Humara brain selectively sirf achi memories store karta hai purane relationships ki. Tu bhool jaati hai woh fights, woh insecurity, woh times jab tu upset thi — sirf woh sunset dates aur late night calls yaad rehte hain. Yeh nostalgia hai, reality nahi. Agar tu honestly apni relationship dekhe, toh tujhe flaws dikhenge jo tab nazar nahi aaye the.

Ek exercise try kar — ek paper le aur do columns bana. Ek mein likh woh sab cheezein jo achi thi, dusre mein woh sab jo nahi thi. Honestly likh — woh time jab usne tujhe ignore kiya, jab tere parents ko nahi bataya, jab tere career ko seriously nahi liya. Dekhegi ki dono columns almost barabar hain. Yeh tujhe perspective dega.

Aur haan, first love ka matlab yeh nahi ki last love bhi wohi honi chahiye. Bollywood ne humein sikhaaya hai ki "pehla pyaar sachcha pyaar hota hai" — par real life mein pehla pyaar tera training wheels tha. Usne tujhe sikhaaya ki tu kya chahti hai, kya nahi chahti, kaise love karti hai, kahan boundaries lagani hain. Yeh sab invaluable hai.

Agar first love bahut pehle ki baat hai par ab bhi tujhe affect karti hai, toh shayad tujhe us time ki khud ko mourn karna hai, us person ko nahi. Tu woh ladki miss karti hai jo tu thi — carefree, hopeful, fearless. Aur main tujhse promise karti hoon ki woh ladki ab bhi tere andar hai. Usse naye experiences ke saath bahar aa ne de. First love ke chapter ko close kar — ek naya chapter tere intezaar mein hai, aur trust me, sequels sometimes original se better hote hain.

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