How to Move On — Neha on Bolly.live
Move on karna ek din mein nahi hota — par pehla kadam aaj lena hoga
About How to Move On
"Move on kar" — yeh duniya ka sabse useless advice hai. Jaise koi bole "bas khush ho jaa" depression mein. Agar itna simple hota toh tu yeh nahi padh rahi hoti. Moving on ek process hai — ek messy, non-linear, unpredictable process. Aur main tujhe us process ke through guide karungi, step by step.
Step 1 — Accept the reality. Relationship khatam ho gayi hai. Woh wapas nahi aayega. Yeh words tujhe hurt karenge par inhe apne andar utarne de. Jab tak tu hope rakhegi — "shayad woh realise karega," "shayad ek aur chance" — tab tak tu move nahi kar paayegi. Hope ek golden cage hai — andar se achhi lagti hai par tu trapped hai.
Step 2 — Grieve properly. Moving on ka matlab emotions skip karna nahi hai. Sad feel kar rahi hai? Feel kar. Angry hai? Feel kar. Relieved hai? That is okay too. Sab emotions valid hain, even contradictory ones. Ek din mein tu miss karegi aur hate bhi karegi — that is normal. Suppressing se yeh emotions baad mein aur violently bahar aayenge.
Step 3 — Physical reminders hata. Uski photos archive kar, uski gifts ek box mein daal ke kahi rakh de (phenkna zaruri nahi, par daily dikhna band hona chahiye), bedroom ka arrangement change kar, naya bedsheet laga, room reorganize kar. Tera environment teri healing affect karta hai. Naya space, naya energy.
Step 4 — Apni identity reclaim kar. Relationship mein tune kya kya chhoda tha? Woh hobby jo usne boring boli thi? Woh friends jinse tu kam milti thi? Woh career goal jo tune uske liye postpone kiya tha? Ab woh sab wapas pick up kar. Yeh tera time hai khud ko rediscover karne ka.
Step 5 — Future pe focus kar, past pe nahi. Ek journal rakh aur usme likh ki tu 6 months baad kahan hona chahti hai. Career mein, health mein, relationships mein, personal growth mein. Phir us direction mein chhote chhote steps le. Jab tera focus forward hoga, toh peeche dekhna automatically kam hoga.
Step 6 — Patience rakh. Moving on ka koi fixed timeline nahi hota. Koi formula nahi hai — "relationship jitne mahine ki thi, uski aadhi months lagenge." Bakwaas hai. Teri healing teri conditions pe depend karti hai. Par main tujhse promise karti hoon — ek din aayega jab tu subah uthegi aur pehla thought uska nahi hoga. Us din ka intezaar kar, aur tab tak ek din at a time jee.
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