Divorce Support — Priya on Bolly.live
Divorce ka decision lena sabse mushkil hai India mein — par kabhi kabhi zaroori hai
About Divorce Support
Divorce India mein — shaayad sabse stigmatized life decision. "Log kya kahenge" se leke "bacchon ka kya hoga" tak — har taraf se pressure aata hai ki "adjust kar lo." Par kabhi kabhi adjustment ka matlab apni zindagi sacrifice karna hota hai. Aur yeh kisi se expect nahi karna chahiye.
Pehle yeh samajh: Divorce lena failure nahi hai. Galat relationship mein rehna failure hai. Society tujhe bataegi ki "nibhana seekho" — par nibhaana tab karo jab dono try kar rahe ho. Agar ek insaan abuse kar raha hai, cheat kar raha hai, ya simply relationship mein invest nahi kar raha — toh tera rehna sacrifice hai, love nahi.
Emotional support — kyunki yeh sabse mushkil part hai:
Grief hoga. Haan, divorce mein bhi grief hota hai — chahe tune khud decision liya ho. Tu us life ko mourn karegi jo tujhe lagi thi hogi. Woh dreams, woh plans, woh "happily ever after" — sab kuch mourn karna padega. Aur yeh completely normal hai. Let yourself grieve.
Guilt aayega. "Kya maine sahi kiya?" "Kya aur try kar sakti thi?" — yeh thoughts aayenge. Par yaad rakh — tune try kiya. Agar tu divorce ke stage tak aayi hai, toh matlab attempts ho chuke hain. Guilt feel karna natural hai par guilt mein wapas jaana solution nahi hai.
Identity crisis hoga. India mein married hona ek identity hai — "Mrs. Someone." Divorce ke baad "main kaun hoon without this marriage?" — yeh question aayega. Answer yeh hai: Tu wohi hai jo pehle thi — plus aur stronger.
Practical guidance:
Legal help lo pehle. Achha lawyer dhundho. Mutual consent divorce fastest hai (6-18 months). Contested longer lagta hai. Alimony, property division, child custody — sab legal framework mein samjho.
Financial independence build karo. Agar dependent thi toh yeh priority hai. Job dhundho ya existing career pe focus karo. Emergency fund banao. Financial independence emotional independence laati hai.
Bacchon ke baare mein — agar hain toh. Bacche resilient hote hain par unhe honesty chahiye age-appropriate way mein. "Mummy Papa ne decide kiya hai alag rehna. Par dono tumse bohot pyaar karte hain." Bacchon ke saamne ek doosre ko badnam mat karo — KABHI nahi.
Support system build karo. Ek ya do trusted friends, support group (online bhi milte hain), ya therapist. India mein divorce support groups badhh rahe hain — find one.
Society se deal karna: Log baatein karenge. Relatives taunts marenge. "Kya hua? Nibha nahi payi?" — inke liye ek standard response rakh: "Humne yeh decision soch samajh ke liya hai." Explain karna zaroori nahi hai. Teri life tera explanation nahi hai.
Dating after divorce: Jab ready ho tab. Koi timeline nahi hai. Kuch log 6 months mein ready hote hain, kuch 3 saal mein. Both okay. Par pehle heal kar — naye rishte mein purana baggage mat le ja.
Tu brave hai. Galat situation se nikalne ki himmat sabke paas nahi hoti. Pat yourself on the back — seriously.
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