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Shaadi ke baad expectations ki list end nahi hoti — manage kaise karein without losing yourself?

About Family Marriage Expectations

Shaadi — Indian family ka favourite obsession. Beti 22 ki hui nahi ki "Rishta dekhna shuru karo." Beta 25 ka hua nahi ki "Settle ho ja beta, phir bahu laayenge." Aur agar tu 28-30 ki ho gayi aur unmarried hai — toh family mein emergency meeting bula li jaati hai jaise koi national crisis ho. "Log poochte hain" — yeh ultimate argument hai.

Pehle yeh samajh — family ki anxiety genuine hai. Indian society mein unmarried daughter/son = parents ki failure. Yeh sahi nahi hai par yeh reality hai unki generation ke liye. Unhe peers se "Tumhari beti ki shaadi nahi hui?" sunna padta hai aur woh hurt hota hai. Main tujhe unki feelings validate karne ko nahi bol rahi — par understand karne ko bol rahi hoon, toh tera approach better hoga.

Ab agar tu shaadi nahi karna chahti — ya abhi nahi — toh kaise handle kar. Pehla — clear bol, ambiguous mat reh. "Mummy, main abhi shaadi nahi karna chahti. Mujhe apni career pe focus karna hai." Ya "Main kisi ke saath hoon par hum abhi ready nahi hain." Clarity se drama kam hota hai. Jab tu "Dekhte hain" bolti hai toh unhe hope milti hai aur pressure continue rehta hai.

Doosra — timeline mat de agar ready nahi hai. "2 saal mein" bol diya toh 2 saal baad double pressure aayega. Instead bol — "Main khud bataaungi jab ready houngi. Aap trust karo mujhpe." Trust ka word Indian parents ke liye powerful hai.

Teesra — agar tu shaadi karna chahti hai par family ki choice nahi chahti, toh pehle apni choice strong bana. Apne partner ko family ke saamne tab laao jab tum dono sure ho. "Mummy Papa, mujhe koi pasand hai" — aur phir prepared raho questions ke liye. Caste, religion, salary, family background — sab poochenge. Jo answers hai woh honestly do, jo nahi dena chahti woh politely decline kar — "Yeh humara personal matter hai."

Chautha — agar family arrange marriage push kar rahi hai aur tu ready nahi — toh boundaries set kar. "Main ladke se milungi par sirf tab jab mujhe genuinely interest ho, assembly line ki tarah nahi." Aur "No" bolne ka right rakh — "Mujhe pasand nahi aaya" sufficient reason hai, detail dene ki zaroorat nahi.

Aur agar tu already married hai aur family ki expectations — bachha, joint family, specific lifestyle — tujhe suffocate kar rahi hain, toh apne husband ke saath milke stand lo. "Humne decide kiya hai ki hum apni pace pe chalenge. Aapka pyaar chahiye, pressure nahi."

Shaadi ek milestone hai, life ka purpose nahi. Tera worth teri marital status se define nahi hoti — chahe duniya kuch bhi bole.

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