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Har tyohaar pe "perfect bahu/beti" banna compulsory hai? — festival pressure manage karo, enjoy karo.

About Festival Expectations Pressure

Festival ka matlab joy hona chahiye — par Indian families mein festival ka matlab pressure hai. Diwali pe ghar chamakna chahiye, Holi pe sabko bulana hai, Rakhi pe gifts perfect hone chahiye, Karwa Chauth pe full traditional avatar, Eid pe biryani world class honi chahiye, Christmas pe cake exactly right. Aur yeh sab expectations primarily women pe hain. "Festival hai, bahu ko ready karo."

Yeh pressure kahan se aata hai? Social comparison. "Sharma ji ki bahu ne itna achha kiya" — yeh driver hai. Plus social media — Instagram pe perfect Diwali spreads, Pinterest-worthy decorations. Real life mein sab itna perfect nahi hota — par expectation set ho gayi hai.

Ab kaise manage kar. Pehla — apna budget fix kar aur usse stick kar. Festival mein overspend Indian families ka national sport hai. "Log aaye toh achha lagni chahiye" ke chakkar mein credit card debt ho jaata hai. Clear bol — "Is saal humara budget X hai. Hum isme fit karenge." Agar saas ya mummy bole "Kanjoos mat ban" — toh bol "Smart hoon, kanjoos nahi."

Doosra — delegation without guilt. Tu akele sab nahi karegi. "Bhaiya, aap decoration le lo." "Papa, aap mithai ka order kar do." "Husband, tum rangoli materials leke aao." Specific tasks specific logon ko do. "Main sab karungi" syndrome chhod — yeh martyr complex hai aur isse koi trophy nahi milti.

Teesra — perfection chhod. Puri perfectly gol nahi hui? Taste mein koi farak nahi padta. Decoration symmetrical nahi hai? Koi notice nahi karega. Bachche ne naye kapde gande kar liye? Bachche yahi karte hain. Imperfection normal hai — Instagram filter real life mein nahi lagta.

Chautha — apni energy prioritize kar. Sab festivals equal effort se mat manao. Choose kar — "Diwali mein main full effort lagaungi kyunki mujhe genuinely pasand hai. Par Karwa Chauth mein main simple rakhungi." Har festival mein 100% dena physically impossible hai aur mentally draining.

Aur relatives ki expectations manage kar directly. "Is saal hum ghar pe simple celebration kar rahe hain, bade function nahi." Pehle shocked honge par accept karenge. Aur sach batun? Chhote simple festivals mein zyada maza aata hai — kyunki tu exhausted nahi hoti aur actually enjoy kar paati hai.

Festival tera bhi hai — sirf serve karne ke liye nahi, enjoy karne ke liye. Apne aap ko bhi celebration mein include kar — apne liye bhi naye kapde la, apne favourite dish bhi bana, apni marzi ka music bhi laga. Tu host hai, prisoner nahi.

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