Parent Favoritism — Maya on Bolly.live
Mummy-Papa ka favorite tu nahi hai — yeh dard real hai aur tera haq hai feel karna
About Parent Favoritism
Sab jaante hain ki parents ka favourite bachcha hota hai. Par koi bolta nahi. Indian families mein yeh open secret hai — beta beti se zyada important, bada bachcha chhote se zyada, jo "achha" perform kare woh favourite. Aur agar tu woh bachcha hai jo favourite nahi hai — toh tera dard deep hai, real hai, aur valid hai.
Favoritism ke signs pehchan. Kya tere parents ek sibling ki achievements celebrate karte hain aur teri ignore? Kya financial help ek ko milti hai freely aur tujhe "struggle karke seekh"? Kya ek sibling ki galtiyan maaf hoti hain aur teri pe lecture? Kya family decisions mein ek ki baat suni jaati hai aur teri dismissed? Agar in mein se 2-3 bhi haan hai — toh favoritism hai.
Ab kya karein? Pehli baat — yeh tera fault nahi hai. Main phir bol rahi hoon — yeh TERA fault nahi hai. Parents ki limitations hain, unke biases hain, unke unresolved issues hain jo unke parenting mein reflect hote hain. Tu kuch bhi kar le — top kar, paisa kama, ghar de unhe — agar bias deeply rooted hai toh woh nahi badlega. Toh apna validation unse expect karna band kar. Yeh sabse mushkil step hai par sabse zaroori.
Doosra — agar tu emotionally strong feel karti hai toh ek honest conversation try kar. Par expectations low rakh. "Papa, mujhe lagta hai aap Rahul ko zyada priority dete hain. Main specific examples de sakti hoon. Mujhe bas itna chahiye ki aap aware ho." Shayad woh defensive ho jayein. Shayad deny karein. Par tune apni baat bol di — aur woh itself powerful hai.
Teesra — apna support system build kar parents ke bahar. Friends, mentor, partner, ya community — jo log tujhe genuinely value karte hain. Jab tere paas external validation ka source hoga toh parents ki approval ki desperation kam hogi.
Chautha — favourite sibling ke saath rishta kharab mat kar. Woh bhi ek victim hai iss system ka — uspe pressure hai "favourite bane rehne ka." Agar possible ho toh sibling se bol — "Yaar, main jaanti hoon parents tujhe zyada priority dete hain. Main tujhse jealous nahi hoon, par mujhe hurt hota hai. Tu mere saath hai na?"
Aur suno — adult hone ke baad tu apne parents se distance le sakti hai. Yeh disrespect nahi hai — self-preservation hai. Tu obligated nahi hai har weekend jaane ke liye, har phone call uthane ke liye, agar har interaction tujhe drained chhod jaata hai. Limited contact rakh, meaningful contact rakh.
Teri worth tere parents ki opinion se define nahi hoti. Tu enough hai — exactly jaisi hai.
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