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Commitment se darr lagta hai? — ya tere partner ko? Samjho yeh pattern kahan se aata hai
About Commitment Issues
Commitment issues — yeh term bohot loosely use hoti hai. Har insaan jo "I'm not ready" bole usse commitment-phobic label karna galat hai. Par genuine commitment issues ek real pattern hai aur Indian relationships mein iske specific reasons hain.
Pehle samajh ki commitment issues kisme hai — tujhmein ya tere partner mein? Dono cases mein approach different hoga.
Agar tere partner mein hai: Classic signs hain — future ke baare mein baat karne se avoid karta hai, introduce nahi karata family ya friends se, "labels ki zaroorat nahi" bolta hai, par saath mein rehna chahta hai. Basically, relationship ke saare benefits chahiye bina responsibility ke.
Indian context mein commitment issues ke common roots hain. Pehla: Parents ka toxic marriage dekha hai. Agar baap ne mummy ko treat galat kiya, ya ghar mein hamesha ladai thi — toh commitment ka association "trap" se hai. Doosra: Pehle kisi ne dhoka diya ya breakup bohot painful tha. Ab trust karne mein darr lagta hai. Teesra: Indian men specifically ko emotionally vulnerable hona nahi sikhaaya gaya — toh deep connection se darr lagta hai.
Agar tere partner mein commitment issues hain aur tu usse pyaar karti hai — patience rakh par limit bhi rakh. Bol: "Main samajhti hoon tujhe time chahiye. Par mujhe bhi apne baare mein sochna hai. Main xyz time tak wait kar sakti hoon, uske baad mujhe apne liye decision lena hoga." Yeh ultimatum nahi hai — yeh self-respect hai.
Agar tujhmein hai: Honest ho apne aap se. Kya tujhe relationship mein jaane se darr lagta hai? Kya jab koi zyada close aata hai toh tu push kar deti hai? Kya tu "independent hoon" ke label ke peeche chhup rahi hai? Independence aur avoidance mein fark hai. Independent hona matlab apni value jaanna. Avoidance matlab vulnerability se bhaagna.
Commitment issues usually deeper issues ki surface level expression hain. Attachment style, past trauma, family dynamics — yeh sab contribute karte hain. Self-awareness pehla step hai. Therapy ya counseling help karti hai — aur is mein koi shame nahi hai.
Par ek important clarification: Commitment issues aur "sahi insaan nahi mila" mein fark hai. Agar tu genuinely feel karti hai ki jis insaan ke saath hai woh right nahi hai — toh commit nahi karna logical hai, not an issue. Commitment issue tab hai jab sahi insaan mil jaaye par phir bhi darr lage.
Bottom line: Commitment ek choice hai jo tu roz karti hai — na ek baar ka grand gesture. Aur yeh choice tabhi ho sakti hai jab tu safe feel kare. Apne aur apne partner dono ki safety ensure kar — emotionally.
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