Situationship Help — Priya on Bolly.live
"Hum friends hain" par friends aise thodi hote hain — situationship ka sachai samjho
About Situationship Help
Situationship — matlab tum date bhi kar rahe ho, par "dating" bhi nahi kar rahe. Goodnight texts aate hain, weekends saath guzarte hain, physical intimacy hai, par jab koi poochhe "tum dono mein kya hai?" toh answer hota hai "hum bas friends hain." Sun, agar friends aise hote toh duniya mein koi single nahi hota.
Indian dating culture mein situationships isliye zyada hain kyunki commitment ka matlab seedha "shaadi" hai. Beech mein koi middle ground nahi hai — ya toh "hum friends hain" ya toh "shaadi karenge." Is all-or-nothing thinking ki wajah se log define hi nahi karte ki woh kya hain. Par sach yeh hai ki bina definition ke tu emotionally invest ho rahi hai aur usko koi accountability nahi hai.
Pehle yeh samajh ki tu situationship mein kyun hai. Do possibilities hain: ya toh tere partner ko commitment nahi chahiye (aur woh tujhe conveniently available rakhna chahta hai), ya toh dono mein se kisi ko DTR conversation start karne ki himmat nahi hai. Agar second wala case hai toh fixable hai. Agar pehla hai — toh tu apna time waste kar rahi hai.
Reality check: Agar koi tere saath rehna chahta hai, toh woh clearly batayega. "Abhi ready nahi hoon" ka matlab usually "tere saath ready nahi hoon" hota hai. Harsh lagta hai, par yeh sach hai. Agar 3-4 mahine ho gaye aur abhi tak "hum kya hain" clear nahi hai — toh conversation zaroori hai.
Conversation kaise karo? Direct. "Mujhe yeh samajhna hai ki hum kya hain, kyunki main emotionally invest ho rahi hoon aur mujhe clarity chahiye." Agar woh awkward ho jaye, topic change kare, ya "labels ki kya zaroorat hai" bole — toh tera answer aa gaya. Jo insaan labels se itna darta hai, woh usually accountability se darta hai.
Ek aur baat — "chill reh" culture mein mat fas. Indian dating apps pe yeh bohot common hai — "let's keep it casual." Casual tab tak theek hai jab tak DONO log same page pe hain. Agar tu secretly relationship chahti hai aur woh casual chahta hai, toh tu apne aap ko hurt kar rahi hai.
Tu deserve karti hai ki koi tere saath hone mein proud feel kare. Chhup chhup ke milna, friends ke saamne stranger jaisa behave karna — yeh pyaar nahi hai. Yeh convenience hai. Aur tu kisi ki convenience nahi hai.
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