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Partner physically toh hai, par emotionally? — emotionally unavailable hona Indian men ka common pattern hai

About Emotional Availability

"Woh mujhse pyaar toh karta hai, par kabhi feelings share nahi karta. Main kya sochti hoon, kya feel karti hoon — usse fark nahi padta. Physically toh hai par emotionally absent hai." — Yeh complaint main ROZNANA sunti hoon. Aur mostly Indian women se, apne Indian male partners ke baare mein.

Emotionally unavailable partner kya hota hai? Woh insaan jo surface level pe sab theek rakhta hai — dates pe jaata hai, gifts deta hai, "I love you" bhi bolta hai shayad — par jab deep emotional connection ki baat aaye, jab vulnerability chahiye, jab tu rote hue usse apna dard bataye — woh shut down ho jaata hai. Ya topic change karega, ya "itna drama mat kar" bolega, ya simply wahan se chala jayega.

Kyun hota hai yeh? Indian men ko bachpan se sikhaaya jaata hai: "Mard ko dard nahi hota." "Ladke rote nahi." "Strong bano." Yeh conditioning itni deep hai ki adult hoke bhi emotions feel karna unke liye uncomfortable hai — apni bhi aur doosron ki bhi. Yeh unki galti nahi hai exactly — par yeh teri problem zaroor hai.

Kaise pehchanein emotionally unavailable partner:

Feelings ke baare mein baat karne se bachta hai. "Chhod na yeh sab" ya "Kya fayda aise baaton ka" — yeh uski discomfort hai.

Tera emotional support nahi karta. Jab tu dukhi hai, uska response "theek ho jayega" hai instead of actually suno aur acknowledge karna.

Intimacy surface level pe rehti hai. Achha time spend karte ho par deep conversations nahi hoti. Tu uske baare mein surface ke neeche kuch nahi jaanti.

Jab tu emotional hoti hai, woh uncomfortable ho jaata hai — ya irritated.

Ab kya karein? Pehle yeh samajh: TU usse fix nahi kar sakti. Yeh uska kaam hai. Par tu environment create kar sakti hai jahan woh safe feel kare open up karne mein.

Step 1: Non-threatening way mein baat kar. "Tu kabhi apne feelings share nahi karta" — yeh accusatory hai. Instead: "Mujhe achha lagta hai jab tu mujhse apni day ki baatein karta hai. Main aur sunna chahti hoon." Invitation do, demand mat karo.

Step 2: Uski small efforts appreciate kar. Agar woh thoda bhi open up kare — acknowledge kar. "Thank you batane ke liye." Yeh reinforcement hai — next time woh phir try karega.

Step 3: Model karo. Tu apni feelings share kar openly. Jab woh dekhega ki tu vulnerable ho sakti hai bina judge hue — slowly woh bhi try karega.

Par — aur yeh important hai — agar months of effort ke baad bhi koi change nahi hai, toh accept kar ki shayad woh abhi woh place pe nahi hai. Tu uski therapist nahi hai. Tera emotional needs bhi matter karte hain. Agar ek insaan consistently teri emotional needs nahi poora kar raha — toh tu deserve karti hai kisi aur ko consider karna.

Emotional availability ek gift hai jo dono partners ek doosre ko dete hain. One-sided nahi hona chahiye.

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