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Baat karna nahi aata? — zyada tar rishte communication ke problems se tootte hain, pyaar ki kami se nahi

About Partner Communication

Suno, India mein communication ka concept hi alag hai. Humein bachpan se sikhaaya jaata hai — "chup reh, bade bol rahe hain," "apni feelings dikhana weakness hai," "ladke rote nahi," "ladkiyon ko zyada nahi bolna chahiye." Yeh sab conditioning hum relationship mein le jaate hain aur phir wonder karte hain ki "baat kyun nahi hoti partner se."

Communication ka pehla rule: Apni needs clearly batao. "Tujhe toh samajhna chahiye" — yeh expectation galat hai. Tera partner mind reader nahi hai. Agar tujhe chahiye ki woh tere birthday pe surprise plan kare, toh bata. Agar tujhe chahiye ki woh roz goodnight bole, toh bata. Expectation rakhna aur nahi batana — yeh resentment paida karta hai.

Doosra rule: "Tu hamesha" aur "tu kabhi nahi" — yeh words ban karo. "Tu hamesha late aata hai" sunke partner defensive ho jaata hai. Instead try: "Jab tu late aata hai toh mujhe lagta hai ki meri value nahi hai tere liye." Pehla blame hai, doosra feeling share karna hai. Doosra wala zyada effective hai.

Indian relationships mein sabse toxic communication pattern hai: Silent treatment. Ladai hui — aur phir 3 din baat nahi. Yeh punishment hai, resolution nahi. Agar tujhe space chahiye toh bol: "Mujhe abhi thoda time chahiye process karne ke liye. Hum kal baat karte hain." Yeh healthy hai. Bina bataye chup ho jaana — yeh emotional abuse ki category mein aata hai.

Active listening — yeh sunne mein simple hai par karna mushkil. Jab tera partner bol raha ho, toh actually sun. Phone neeche rakh. Eye contact rakh. Uski baat repeat karke bol: "Toh tu yeh bol raha hai ki..." Isse usko lagta hai ki tu sach mein samajh rahi hai.

Timing bhi matter karta hai. Serious baat tab mat kar jab koi tired ho, hungry ho, ya phone pe busy ho. "Mujhe tere saath kuch discuss karna hai, kab free hoga?" — yeh respect hai. Achanak heavy topics pe mat jaao.

Ek aur Indian-specific issue: Partners apni mummy se complain karte hain instead of directly baat karne ke. "Mummy se bol diya ki tu aisa karti hai" — yeh betrayal hai. Rishte ki problems rishte mein solve honi chahiye, third party mein nahi. Especially family members mein nahi, kyunki woh perspective biased hoga.

Communication ek skill hai — kisi ko naturally nahi aati. Practice karni padti hai. Galtiyan hongi, awkward moments aayenge. Par jab dono log try karte hain consistently, toh rishta 10x better ho jaata hai. Guaranteed.

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