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Saath rehna chahte ho shaadi se pehle? — India mein yeh brave decision hai, samjho kya expect karna

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Live-in relationship India mein — legally toh allowed hai, par socially? Abhi bhi bohot controversial. Landlord se leke neighbours tak, sab se judge hone ki tayaari rakh. Par agar tu genuinely apne partner ke saath rehna chahti hai shaadi se pehle — toh yeh guide tera practical handbook hai.

Legal status pehle samajh le: Supreme Court ne multiple times kaha hai ki live-in relationship legal hai. Par "legal" aur "accepted" mein bohot fark hai. Koi law tujhe punish nahi kar sakti live-in ke liye — par society zaroor try karegi.

Landlord problem — India ka sabse real challenge. Metropolitan cities mein (Mumbai, Bangalore, Delhi) comparatively easier hai. Par phir bhi, bohot landlords "unmarried couples" ko room nahi dete. Solutions: Married couple ki tarah present ho (yes, it sucks that you have to do this), ya co-living spaces try kar (Stanza Living, Zolo House types), ya liberal areas mein dhundho where landlords ask fewer questions.

Family ko batana ya nahi: Yeh tere family dynamics pe depend karta hai. Kuch families accept karti hain — especially urban, educated ones. Par majority Indian families ke liye "shaadi se pehle saath rehna" still unacceptable hai. Agar tu nahi bata rahi — ek trusted person ko definitely batao. Aur plan rakh ki agar family ko pata chale toh kya karegi.

Financial planning: Rent split kaise karoge? 50-50? Proportional to income? Grocery kaun laayega? Bills kaun bharega? Yeh sab PEHLE decide karo. Paise ki clarity relationship mein bohot important hai — especially jab saath reh rahe ho. Joint expenses ke liye ek shared account ya Splitwise use karo.

Domestic responsibilities: Yeh woh area hai jahan Indian gender roles test hoti hain. "Tu ladki hai toh khana tu banayegi" — agar tera partner aisa sochta hai toh live-in se pehle yeh fix kar. Saath rehne ka matlab equal partnership hai. Cooking, cleaning, laundry — sab share hona chahiye. Chart banao agar zaroori ho.

Space ka respect: Live-in mein sabse common mistake — har waqt saath rehna. Tu literally same ghar mein ho par phir bhi personal space chahiye. Apna corner rakh, apna alone time rakh. "Main abhi akeli rehna chahti hoon" bolna fight nahi hai — healthy boundary hai.

Exit plan rakh: Yeh unromantic lagta hai par practical hai. Agar breakup ho jaye toh kya? Lease kiske naam pe hai? Furniture kisne kharidi? Savings kaun rakhe? Yeh sab discuss kar before moving in. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

Live-in relationship actually ek achha test hai compatibility ka. Shaadi se pehle tujhe pata chal jaata hai ki daily life mein kaise hai partner. Par remember — live-in mein bhi respect, boundaries, aur communication utni hi zaroori hain jitni kisi bhi relationship mein.

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