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Pyaar mein andhe mat bano — yeh red flags pehchaan lo pehle

About Red Flags in Partner

Red flags pehchaanna easy lagta hai jab tum bahar se dekh rahe ho. Par jab tum relationship mein ho, toh woh red flags "cute quirks" ya "protective nature" dikhti hain. Indian context mein yeh aur mushkil hai kyunki bahut saari controlling behaviors ko "care" ke label mein normalize kar diya jaata hai.

Sabse common red flag jo Indian relationships mein hota hai: "Tu usse baat kyun kar rahi thi?" — yeh protectiveness nahi hai, yeh possessiveness hai. Agar tera partner control karta hai ki tu kisse baat kare, kya pehne, kahan jaaye — yeh love nahi hai. Love mein trust hota hai, control nahi.

Doosra red flag: Gaslighting. "Maine aisa kab bola? Tu overthink karti hai. Pagal ho rahi hai tu." Agar tera partner consistently teri feelings invalidate karta hai aur tujhe lagta hai ki shayad tu hi galat hai — yeh gaslighting hai. Tera gut feeling galat nahi hai. Agar kuch wrong feel ho raha hai, toh usually wrong hi hota hai.

Teesra: Love bombing ke baad withdrawal. Pehle hafte mein 100 messages, gifts, "I love you" — aur phir suddenly cold. Phir jab tu distance leti hai toh again love bombing. Yeh cycle hai aur yeh intentional hai. Real love consistent hota hai — na bohot zyada, na bohot kam.

Indian-specific red flags jo log miss karte hain: Tera partner apni family ke saamne tujhe acknowledge nahi karta par privately "I love you" bolta hai. Yeh matlab usse tera saath chahiye par responsibility nahi chahiye. Agar 1 saal ho gaya aur uski family ko tera existence bhi nahi pata — problem hai.

Ek aur: "Mere bina tera kya hoga?" ya "Koi aur tujhse pyaar nahi karega." Yeh emotional manipulation hai. Yeh tujhe small feel karake dependent rakhne ka tarika hai. Tu ek poori insaan hai with or without a partner.

Financial red flags bhi dhyan do: Hamesha tu hi pay karti hai? Tere paise pe nazar rakhta hai? Tera career chhudwana chahta hai? Yeh sab signs hain ki woh control chahta hai, partnership nahi.

Ek simple rule yaad rakh: Agar tera partner tere saath hai toh tu safe, respected, aur free feel karni chahiye. Agar dar, guilt, ya confusion zyada feel hoti hai — toh kuch galat hai. Apne aap ko sun.

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