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"Main mar jaungi" — emotional blackmail ka yeh extreme hai. Pehchaan aur deal kar.

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"Agar tu yeh karegi toh mujhe heart attack aa jayega." "Main mar jaungi agar tune usse shaadi ki." "Tumne toh humein chhod hi diya, ab hum kisi kaam ke nahi." — Yeh emotional blackmail hai. Aur Indian families mein yeh itna common hai ki logon ko pata hi nahi chalta ki yeh manipulation hai — unhe lagta hai yeh "pyaar" hai.

Clear kar lein — emotional blackmail tab hota hai jab koi tera guilt, tera dar, ya teri obligation use karke tujhe woh karne pe majboor kare jo UNHE chahiye, teri choice ignore karke. Yeh conscious bhi ho sakta hai aur unconscious bhi. Bahut se parents ko genuinely nahi pata ki woh emotional blackmail kar rahe hain — unhe lagta hai woh apna dard express kar rahe hain.

Par intent se zyada impact matter karta hai. Chahe unka intention kuch bhi ho — agar result yeh hai ki tu apni choices chhod rahi hai, guilt mein doob rahi hai, aur unki marzi se jee rahi hai — toh yeh toxic hai.

Kaise deal karein? Sabse pehle — recognize the pattern. Jab koi "Main mar jaungi" bole toh apne dimaag mein ek flag lagao — "Yeh emotional blackmail hai." Sirf recognition se hi power shift hoti hai. Jab tu jaanti hai ki kya ho raha hai, toh react karna easier hai.

Doosra — don't react in the moment. Emotional blackmail ka goal hai tujhe immediately react karwana — guilt mein aakar "Thik hai, nahi karungi." Par tu pause le. "Main iss baare mein sochungi" — aur actually soch. Ek din ka time le. Jab emotions settle hote hain toh tu better decision legi.

Teesra — broken record technique use kar. Apni baat calmly repeat kar, chahe woh kitna bhi emotional ho jayein. "Main samjhti hoon aapko takleef hai, par mera decision yeh hai." Woh royenge — tu repeat kar. Woh gussa karenge — tu repeat kar. Woh silent treatment denge — tu wait kar. Eventually unhe samajh aayega ki yeh tactics kaam nahi kar rahe.

Chautha — health threats ka response. Jab koi bole "Mujhe heart attack aa jayega" — seriously le, par manipulation mat accept kar. "Aapki health meri priority hai. Chaliye doctor ke paas chalte hain." Agar genuinely health issue hai toh doctor help karega. Agar manipulation hai toh woh refuse karenge aur point prove ho jayega.

Aur suno — emotional blackmail se dealing mein sabse mushkil part yeh hai ki tujhe bura lagta hai. Tu feel karegi ki "Main selfish hoon." Par apne liye stand lena selfish nahi hai — yeh necessary hai. Tu doosron ki khushi ke liye apni life sacrifice karne ke liye duniya mein nahi aayi. Tera bhi jeene ka haq hai — apne terms pe.

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