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Thoda jealousy normal hai — par jab yeh control ban jaye toh problem hai

About Jealousy Management

Thoda sa jealousy normal hai — agar tera partner kisi aur se baat kare aur thodi si pinch lage, that is human. Par jab yeh "pinch" controlling behavior ban jaaye — tab problem hai. Indian relationships mein jealousy ko romanticize kiya jaata hai: "Wo jealous hota hai matlab pyaar karta hai." Nahi bhai. Jealous hona matlab insecure hai, pyaar ka isse koi lena dena nahi.

Pehle pehchaan ki teri jealousy healthy hai ya toxic. Healthy jealousy: "Uski colleague ke saath photo dekhi, thoda weird laga, par main trust karti hoon." Toxic jealousy: "Uski colleague ke saath photo dekhi, phone check kiya, purani chats padhi, fight ki, usse block karwaya." Dekh fark?

Jealousy ka root cause kya hai? Usually insecurity. "Main enough nahi hoon" — yeh feeling jealousy ke peeche hoti hai. Sochti hai ki koi better mil jayega usse toh chhod dega. Yeh tera self-worth issue hai, partner ka issue nahi. Matlab solution bhi tere andar hai.

Indian context mein jealousy ke specific triggers hain: Social media. Instagram pe partner ki photo mein kisi aur ke saath — immediately jealousy. "Uski photo pe itne likes kyun aaye?" "Yeh ladki kaun hai jo har photo pe comment karti hai?" Social media ne jealousy ko fuel de diya hai kyunki ab tu roz dekh sakti hai partner kiske saath interact kar raha hai.

Deal kaise karein? Step one: Feeling acknowledge kar bina act kiye. "Haan, mujhe jealousy feel ho rahi hai" — bol apne aap se. Feeling feel karna okay hai. Par us feeling pe impulsively act karna — phone check karna, accusation lagana, partner ko restrict karna — yeh okay nahi hai.

Step two: Communicate without blaming. "Jab tune uske saath late night call ki, mujhe thoda insecure feel hua" is way better than "Tu usse kyun call kar raha tha? Kya chal raha hai tum dono mein?" Pehla vulnerable hai, doosra accusatory hai. Vulnerable hona zyada effective hota hai.

Step three: Apni insecurity pe kaam kar. Kya tu apni zindagi mein fulfilled hai? Teri apni friends hain? Hobbies hain? Goals hain? Ya tera poora emotional world sirf partner ke around revolve karta hai? Agar haan — toh jealousy naturally aayegi. Kyunki tera saara self-worth ek insaan pe depend hai.

Partner ke liye bhi bol doon: Agar tum jaante ho ki tumhara partner insecure hai, toh thoda extra reassurance dena galat nahi hai. "Tu hi meri priority hai" — yeh bolne mein kya jaata hai? Par reassurance ka demand constant nahi hona chahiye — woh ek bandaid hai, cure nahi.

Jealousy ka real cure hai: Self-worth build karna aur trust ka practice karna. Dono time lete hain. Par dono possible hain.

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